Reconstruction - delayed....again.

Helen,Thankyou so much for your email. It is easy to think that you are alone in this and that no-one could possibly understand what it is that you are going thru....but then you write to me and I see very clearly that I am not alone and I am one of many going thru a tough time and we all share very similar feelings.I'm sorry that you had such an awful Dr. I have been very fortunate with most of mine but I did have one make some stinging remarks to me about my weight just after I had finished chemo. God forbid that they ever have to go thru what we go thru but they just don't have a clue!Yes, you sound like me, I have the disadvantage of being past menopause now, so my metabolism is probably almost a flatline, however, I have stopped feeling sorry for myself (well, almost!) and am picking myself up ready to fight.My GP actually sent me to a Physio for an appt (unusual, but she was wonderful) who has helped me set some goals and motivated me to set up an exercise plan and I am trying to stick to it. It's funny how you know in your head all the right things to do and now its just a matter of pushing myself to get them done.I know what you are saying about the weight issue and your self-image. Its hard to imagine why our husbands still want us but thankfully, I have a wonderful man and it sounds like you do too. I watched an interesting thing the other day (a Dove commercial) which showed such a startling difference between how we see ourselves and how others see us. It really made me think about my own self-image (or lack, thereof).We are way too tough on ourselves. We have so much to deal with when going through all this cancer journey that we need to stop bashing ourselves up and start realising that with what we have survived, our bodies may show the scars but we are still the same beautiful women we were before it all.So, I am determined to not "get skinny" but "GET STRONG".Thank you again, Helen, and I really hope your journey gets easier. I have found this BCNA site a tremendous help, for info, and to blow off my frustration.Sincerest regards,Heather