Really feel upset; need to talk to someone

Joy (and Deb)..u are both going thru all the normal emotions..don't ever feel embarrassed or that u are a sook..it is soooo normal..it's actually called  a re-adjustment issue..u need time to 'digest' all of this info and come to terms with the enormity of it all. That includes crying as much as u need, hiding away for a while, relying on others..all sorts of coping mechanisms..u do whatever works for YOU...

If ur partner or a close friend can be with u as u go thru treatment (especially in the beginning) then rely on them to help u..they can take the phone calls, see to visitors (my hubby played the door bitch role very well!!!)..help with meals..anything..u need to focus on urself. Take the time to enjoy a hot bath or get a massage..whatever makes u feel better..

remember, this is only a temporary detour and any plans u had made can be postponed, and u CAN do them later...

I know too well how this stuff messes with ur head, counselling and meds can be of help-seek either or both-the help is there, u just need to ask. Speak with ur breast care nurse, they will be able to arrange a counsellor and let u know how to go about sorting forms for medicare to cover the costs. Our B Care nurse is also our oncology unit manager & administers my chemo - so we see her regularly..we rely on her so much. We have been 'regulars' at our hospital since feb 2010 and we know them all, they know us and we feel like part of the family, there is some comfort in this, even tho its the last place u really want to be..they make is so much more enjoyable to be there..embrace their support too-take it wherever u can.

Good luck in the coming days...come back and keep us posted.if we embrace the strength of this network of amazing women, we can achieve anything

Much love

Sam   :)