Pre-surgery Emotional Ups & Downs
So last week was a good week - had core biopsy & 2nd tumour diagnosed as benign.
I felt grateful, lucky & very relieved.
This week - feel like I've hit a bit of an emotional wall, especially when...
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Hi Melhay
give yourself a break!!!! You are going through huge turmoil yourself and you're entitled to have low tolerance. Us wife's, mothers, daughters and sisters are so good at guilt aren't we?
My boys were 18 and 20 when I was diagnosed. All I can suggest is having open and honest conversations with your family, preferably before things blow up. Tell them you bullshit meter is at an all time low. Tell them you are struggling to cope. Tell the kids to grow up and that there are more important things than stupid arguments. Tell them it's ok for them to be confused and scared and struggling with the changes in you and your family situation. Tell them you are feeling the same way. It's really hard on everyone but the fact is you are human too. This is the one time where they might just have to fend for themselves a bit or rely on other members of the family to get their support as you have to concentrate on you and getting through this the best way you can. It sounds selfish as we are normally the one who holds the family glue together but it's not selfish at all. It's going to be a steep learning curve of you all. Hopefully it might take some of your daughters focus off of herself and her issues and may even be a step to her regaining some resilience. The word cancer has such a negative connotation but there will be some positives to come out of the experience. I wish you all the very best. Karen xox