Dear @Tasia
It’s possible that your counsellor can help with some of those questions - that is, help you to find your answer to them. Treatment can bring in a lot of questioning - about chemo, about how you feel but also about where you have been and where you think you may be going. I found counselling very helpful even if it was for a relatively short time but I also found that I made best use of what I had learned almost 12 months after diagnosis. By that time I was almost finished herceptin, considering travelling again, prepared to make changes about a future I wanted rather than reacting to circumstances created by treatment and side effects. Experiencing cancer is time consuming - those who haven’t experienced it themselves often don’t understand that and may assume that you just want to put it all behind you as soon as possible. Friendship is still a two way process - cancer may dominate and the unaffected person may find that hard. Many of us find that changes post diagnosis are significant, and that they can be good changes too. Chemo kills rogue cells - it’s not a transformative agent. Your brain and thinking capacity are transformative agents. But like anything worthwhile, making lasting, beneficial changes takes time. Best wishes.
