Hi Debs,
I think that friend's mum must be superwomen or maybe she didn't have an auxillary clearance.I took about 4 weeks off work.The first time (7yrs ago) I could barely lift my arm after 6wks post op.and had to have a further 6wks of physio.This time around it wasn't as bad apart from getting the fluid drained every week for 6 wks.Don't be too hard on yourself.It takes about 4wks for it to settle down.You've lost alot of blood so you'll be tired for awhile.Just do what you can around the house and rest up.
Tonya xx