Pity Party Woe is Me
Since my diagnosis, I have felt quite removed from the whole thing and I guess been able to compartmentalize everything. Last night and today, I think things are slowly dawning on me as I realise th...
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@Yellow_Daffodil oh bubble tea I love that :D I would have to agree, I'm not sure if its a pity party as such but what if it is?? Are we not human? I think anyone who has been through anything in their life has earnt their right to feel sad, upset, down, hopeless, or whatever emotion rises don't you? I honestly believe this is all part of the whole thing and it is so, so important to acknowledge everything we feel, the beauty is we don't stay their or unpack there? we pick up after our bubble tea a little more OK and able to step forward. For me its chocolate YAAAS!!! hee hee!!
I have been on this path (not journey uuuugh lol) for 10 years now. I quickly came to learn after my 2nd bout and recurrence at the 4 year mark that hmmm ok this isnt straightforward and I think the unpredictability of it became very real. Inspite of lumpectomy wide excision, radiation and tamoxifen for 4yrs it came back in the same spot? they still cannot explain it, it happens. So another lumpectomy, sentinel node biopsy, lymph nodes clear but 2.5cm tumor within my 12 month checkup IDC Stage 2 grade 3 whoa! OK so had to do chemo, 1 year after that eventhough I was clear the Oncologist pushed for a single mastectomy to be sure. So 2017 I had a single mastectomy/diep flap recon and they did do a wonderful job I admit. There are so many things though that they just don't tell you about side effects and living with it all and so we all move forward with our new normal.
Oh another thing I never liked is when someone would say to me 'Oh you're in remission' I never use that word, it might be a play on words but for me the word remission gives permission LOL. Instead I say I am fine and healthy :D Ummm there are a few other things people say in regards to Cancer that I'm like you really need to think of different words LOL.
Keep your sense of humor that is the most important thing! but also throw that pity party anytime you feel like too! you are allowed to be vulnerable and to me there is no better honesty than someone who is STRONG, courageous and can still bare their soul in their pain!
You will grow through this in ways you never thought you would and always look at how far you have come, not how far you have to go.
Biggest of hugs to you and have that damn Pavlova ha!
M x
I have been on this path (not journey uuuugh lol) for 10 years now. I quickly came to learn after my 2nd bout and recurrence at the 4 year mark that hmmm ok this isnt straightforward and I think the unpredictability of it became very real. Inspite of lumpectomy wide excision, radiation and tamoxifen for 4yrs it came back in the same spot? they still cannot explain it, it happens. So another lumpectomy, sentinel node biopsy, lymph nodes clear but 2.5cm tumor within my 12 month checkup IDC Stage 2 grade 3 whoa! OK so had to do chemo, 1 year after that eventhough I was clear the Oncologist pushed for a single mastectomy to be sure. So 2017 I had a single mastectomy/diep flap recon and they did do a wonderful job I admit. There are so many things though that they just don't tell you about side effects and living with it all and so we all move forward with our new normal.
Oh another thing I never liked is when someone would say to me 'Oh you're in remission' I never use that word, it might be a play on words but for me the word remission gives permission LOL. Instead I say I am fine and healthy :D Ummm there are a few other things people say in regards to Cancer that I'm like you really need to think of different words LOL.
Keep your sense of humor that is the most important thing! but also throw that pity party anytime you feel like too! you are allowed to be vulnerable and to me there is no better honesty than someone who is STRONG, courageous and can still bare their soul in their pain!
You will grow through this in ways you never thought you would and always look at how far you have come, not how far you have to go.
Biggest of hugs to you and have that damn Pavlova ha!
M x