Hi Gayle,
Yes, It is a devastating experience. sorry you are having a hard time at the moment.
I did not realise when I was diagnosed the different types of BC and the different treatments. Yes, they have to do something, and knowledge does help with understanding and dealing with the diagnosis and coping with the sometimes long process.
It is daunting and then side effects can add up.
I remember achy bones and stiff joints. I had some lymph issue concerns and work issues. Tonya is right.. now is the time to try and take it easy. You are going through the worst of it now. The body will try and recover, and that can take TIME. So hoping you rest up and also listen to what your body needs right now.
Have some faith; the treatments are science based, and also some hope.
I went through a loss, shock, grief, denial, anger, sadness, bargaining and finally acceptance and ..it can be common in cancer treatments.
I wish I had spoken to someone earlier. There are people who you could talk to.. or sometimes medication can help.
The stiffness, joint pains, numbness may lessen in time. It may be due to hormone reduction from treatments. Look up on things that may help. Time does help too.
I still take a low dose antidepressant for pain perceptin, flushes and sleep, etc. ( No point in being VERY miserable.. if you do not have to be. I am not saying you need them, but if you do get to the point of it all being TOO much.. then there are options. It is one hell of a ride to go through, and I feel for you at this time.)
I also take a tablet called livial.... and have oestrogen vaginal pessary twice a week. I have come to acceptance.. of things as they are, and try and live each day as it comes. ( not always easy . )
I think we have to grieve the " old " life and then we can adjust to the new one. Getting information can also to feel some " control. " As you said, you wish someone had told you of peripheral neuropathy before chemo. Do you have a BC nurse to talk to ? Having someone answer your queries, can help to allay anxiety.
All the best.. Kathy.