Hi Di,
For my money if there is already in place we should piggy back off it if it will work. We need a place were we can have a voice amongst ourselves. I'm sorry to say but some women can't help themselves, with the need to tell us what it is they think we need/want. I once had a woman (who was a cancer survivor) tell me that unless I was told how to I wouldn't know how to properly run a household! So we need a place were we can chat without causing offence or being annoyed by those who don't recognise our needs.
Secondly I agree we need to start with a big group (and get momentum)and then split into smaller groups to meet specific needs. For example my wife has late advanced breast cancer and I need to talk with other male carers who are sharing the journey.
So either a new group or a group already founded I am keen. I think it needs to be private for the reasons I stated above.
Cheers
Simon