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Carma
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12 years ago

My First Post

Hello.  I am trying to work out how to use this site for online support.  User guide would not download.  Find it very confusing so please bear with me.  Anyway ....... I am 60yr old professional.  Very fit, strong and healthy person all my life.  Very rarely get cold or flu.  Never been in hospital except to have son 23 yrs ago. Strong family history.  Been checked yearly for 35 yrs.  Always negative.  Had checkup in Jan 2014.  Grade 3 cancer (scary) lump discovered.  Probably only been there for about 3-4 mths.  Lump removed + two sentinel nodes (one had cancer).  Had axillary clearance 10 lymph nodes removed (one had cancer).    Possibility of microscopic amounts of cancer in other lymph nodes.  In 3 wks start chemotherapy.  1 mth break. Then 5 wks radiation.  Herceptin for one year finishing March 2015.  Just devastated.  Feel my life is over.  My worst nightmare has only just begun.  So scared about chemo and losing hair.  I am private person so totally devastated.  Career on hold for 12 mths.  Decided to remain hermit and stay at home.  Seeing oncologist for first time in one week.  Reading about huge range of side effects.  Expecting to go through hell.  Sick of people telling me it will be alright and to stay positive.  They just don't get what I am going through.  Does anyone else relate to this????  Thanks for listening.

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  • Sorry to hear about your diagnosis, it's so scary isn't it? This site will help you immensely with advice and comfort. I had my lumpectomy mid oct followed by 6 doses of chemotherapy which I have just finished, onto radiotherapy at the end of march, then hormone therapy. I fully understand you fears, i was so terrified of chemo when i joined this site, scared of everything. Chemo isn't a walk in the park but it's definitely doable. With my anxiety and depression I never thought I would make it, but I have and you will too. I always said I would never leave the house when I lost my hair, then on good days I ended up putting on a scarf, held my head up high and went out and had some enjoyable days. We can relate to your fears and we are always hear to listen, take care and I wish you well,

    Hazel xx

  • Hi Carma

    Looking forward to meeting you hopefully on Weds for Pancakes on the deck at Lawnton. I am nearly 4 years now and went through a similar experience to you except for the Herceptin - I didn't need to have it. I am currently waiting to have a R) breast reconstruction in the very near future. Life does go back to a new normal. I have taken up Dragon Boating with the Redcliffe Pink Snapdragons and love it.  I never believed I would be competing and winning medals in my 50's!!

    Kind regards

    Sarah

     

  • Dear Lynne,

    Thanks for your post.  I will start to get the hang of this website as I go along.  Thank you so much.

    Carmel x

     

  • Dear Deanne,

    Thank you for your words of encouragement.  I will become more used to website I guess as I go along.  You sound as though you have come out the other end of the treatments.  This is where I would like to be eventually.  This site is just amazing!!!!!  I am just so impressed and can't believe that I can access so much support and knowledge here.  You have given me some hope Deanne as I enter into unknown and scary territory.  I can't thank you enough.  Carmel x

  • Robyn,

    Thank you so much and thank you for sharing your story with me.  At least I never had a mastecomy like you and I just can't even imagine how you coped with that as well.  You sound just so much like me.  I have excellent health but I have gone to a naturopath to boost my immune system even further.  I also believe in exercising and will do this each day to maybe give me a better chance at feeling bettern through chemo.  I will be in contact again Robyn because I will need some advice about preparing for chemo and some support too.  I wont' be starting chemotherapy until about 3 weeks, I think.  My surgery wounds need to heal before that.  Robyn you have been just so helpful and put my mind at ease a little.  Thank you so much and my best wishes to you for your recovery.  Carmel

     

  • Hi Carma,

    This site was a boon to me when I was first diagnosed. I read, and reread, the other posts and found that what I was feeling was quite normal and they gave me hope that I could get through this.... and I have. I also found my group here and a better bunch of ladies you would struggle to meet. Sometimes I just come on to read and sometimes I post, but, always, I feel better when I leave!

    Good luck with your "journey" and I hope we can catch up soon.

    Cheers,

    Lynne

  • Hi Carma,

    This site was a boon to me when I was first diagnosed. I read, and reread, the other posts and found that what I was feeling was quite normal and they gave me hope that I could get through this.... and I have. I also found my group here and a better bunch of ladies you would struggle to meet. Sometimes I just come on to read and sometimes I post, but, always, I feel better when I leave!

    Good luck with your "journey" and I hope we can catch up soon.

    Cheers,

    Lynne