Hi Angie.
I think the problem is that most surgeons don't explain that pain and swelling is normal - I was in the unfortunate position of seeing my sister in terrible pain with swelling etc, so I knew that it wasn't just me.
Don't be in a rush to go back to your normal activities - just do what feels right. I found that If I became impatient and did more than was sensible, I paid for it in pain the next day. Be kind to yourself and go at your own pace - that's the only thing that matters.
Sending hugs,
Xxx Jeanine