Oh Crowded Granny!!! So sorry to hear about Hubby. Im a single parent of 6yrs and unfortunately done this journey twice now on my own, no waking up to someone either. Its hard! I too was like you, busy busy, always wanting to help others, and work. What became so apparent to me through my last chemo journey was, I was so sick and I was forced to stop, I fought it so hard and was so angry and frustrated. I WANTED MY LIFE BACK!!!! NOW! BUT I sat down and I realised this wasnt in my control what was happening, and so interestingly I let go of my work and I put my time into me...I really feel there were reasons to make me STOP and this did. I now do not put work above myself or my health, and I still help people...but not before myself. I actually learned to nurture me instead of everyone else, that was a tough thing for me but an important lesson for me. Its a hard journey and being positive really doesnt help all the time because it isnt real...we are human, and its important to honor every emotion you feel, only then do we find a way to take the next step! Big hugs Melinda xo youre doing ok, and you will get there to help your family once again.