While I deeply appreciate how traumatic a diagnosis of bc is to those who are young, it's no less difficult for older women. When you are a mature, capable, doing person, the sudden shift to a most unwelcome dependency is very hard. You have an even harder road without your husband. It will get better. When you feel more cheerful (walking, deep breathing, do something you enjoy will all help) explain to your family the importance of some normality in your recovery. They mean the very best but it can make you feel superannuated and unfocused. Venting is good too and here is a safe and sympathetic place to do it! Take care.