Lumpectomy to mastectomy in 60 seconds

I was diagnosed 3 months and still no closer to a surgery date. The Royal brisbane says they haven't received my referral to see dr there and my dr at Radcliffe says he faxed it thru. Don't you think they would just resend the dam thing? Hmmm. Is 3 months too long to be waiting for this? I initially was having a lumpectomy for DCIS in the right. They found invasive in the left and have advised double mastectomy. I would like immediate reconstruction so they are sending me to surgeon at brisbane to assess if that's possible then if he can't I go back to Radcliffe for just mastectomy. He recon can be done I then stay at brisbane. I am getting more and more anxious by the day as I am getting paranoid now that it is spreading. Can someone please let me know how it all works pretty please. Surgeons give you minimal info. Grrrr. Thanks ladies. Xx