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Shezz8
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14 years ago

Lost confidence

Hey everyone, this is my first time blogging here. I've been single (widowed) for quite some years and had a single mastectomy two years ago.  Because I was in the public system I could only get reconstruction of the removed breast; so now I have one reconstructed breast and one original breast!  I recently met a man who I thought was very caring until I told him of my BC and subsequent results. He now does not want to see me any more.  I have taken this as a personal rejection because of my body.  It does not bother me that my body is not perfect. I'm alive and here to tell the story, but he has rocked my confidence. I thought it only matters what we're like inside, but apparently not so.  Has anyone else experienced this, and if so, how did you deal with it?

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    magicmum
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    14 years ago

    I'm sorry you have had a confidence killer, but it is HIS problem not yours.  Maybe one day he will find that something about his body puts a lady off, and then he'll know.Those that mind don't matter, and those that matter don't mind.

    I feel so sad when I read posts about partners who are less than supportive - I am so lucky.  I just keep thinking that they will reap what they've sown.

    You put your chin up and hold your head high. You are still the same person you were before and if you project confidence and contentment with your own self it will shine through. And then you have a chance of meeting someone who sees what's important.

    Goodluck on your journey.

    magicmum