I havent posted since before my surgery

@RobynAnne It's exhausting, thinking through all the options, isn't it? I've been there. I won't go into all the details, but I ended up having a tissue expander when my unilateral mastectomy was done. They also put in a panel of titanium mesh underneath. Then I had chemo and radiation. Nine months on, it was uncomfortable and often painful, and ugly - the temporary reconstruction was not well done. I absolutely hated what I had. I decided not to go ahead with having the implant in to replace the tissue expander, and to ask for another surgeon. I had to wait for that, so I'd had it for 20 months by the time everything was removed and I went "flat" four weeks ago. I don't regret my decision. The new surgeon has done a lovely neat job. I look forward to getting the prosthesis and custom-made bra when I'm completely healed. And I believe I'll be comfortable.
Some people have different priorities. And priorities can change with time; mine did. When I was diagnosed, it really mattered to me to have a shape there. After all the treatment, I was drained, and it no longer matters.
All the best with whatever you decide. xx