@Elmumof2 it's me again I deleted the second half of my comment so will continue on.
When I had my mastectomy I too was like Nikid . The nurse had left me to shower and when I looked at myself in the mirror and could only see one breast and bandages across where my left one had been i cried buckets of tears for so many things , the anger and sadness I felt that cancer had changed my life and how I would never be emotionally free again.
4 years later I am waiting on my reconstruction life is good . I definitely still have my moments and nights where sleep eludes me as you can see I am on this forum at 2.27am.
I wear a mask (figure of speech) on my tough days and I try to stay positive and away from negative people and thoughts.
I think if you just live in the moment and go one day at a time and not look too far ahead you will realize slowly you will get stronger. This sounds hard when you are going through so much right now. Your children will be your strength. The ladies on this site are amazing so If you are feeling down just hop on. They all understand .
Hope things will get better.
Thinking of you .
Di xxx