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I had a bilateral mastectomy and reconstruction last Thursday .I'm in hospital , drs think I might go home on Wednesday .I have a 22 month old and a 7 month old .My partner is undergoing chemo and rad...
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Elmumof2 - I think you have every right to want to scream!! We all get it and have been there. It's not easy not any level and I admit every time Ive been in hospital I don't have visitors apart from immediate family. After a recurrence, I became quite intolerant, people mean well but really...it was my time I wasnt up to talking to anyone. I was in far too much pain, I dont mind it now 6 weeks post and am doing better for people to come, but really apart from here...they don't get it. I also found too if you werent all 'UP' and positive theyd come down on you...Don't need it. Of course you want your kids and to pick them up! I'm sorry to hear of your Partner too, that is really tough!!! When I was in Chemo, my partner donated a kidney to his daughter, but that was different,but we were still quite a pair.
The best thing you could do honestly, is cry and scream and don't apologize to anyone for how you feel. All the positivity and support in the world doesn't change how you feel when youre in that moment. Only way is to let it be...no judgement here at all!! Just keep talking to anyone you feel that helps... You really are doing so well inspite of all the circumstances, and I think we forget to give ourselves credit sometimes of how hard things can get that we dont have to be strong or perfect. Just be YOU!!! Hoping things settle down for you.
Big hugs Melinda xo
The best thing you could do honestly, is cry and scream and don't apologize to anyone for how you feel. All the positivity and support in the world doesn't change how you feel when youre in that moment. Only way is to let it be...no judgement here at all!! Just keep talking to anyone you feel that helps... You really are doing so well inspite of all the circumstances, and I think we forget to give ourselves credit sometimes of how hard things can get that we dont have to be strong or perfect. Just be YOU!!! Hoping things settle down for you.
Big hugs Melinda xo