Husband and chores
so here I sit after having my two ops (first lumpectomy and five nodes) then (all nodes as cancer spread) my chemo starts Tuesday and I have told the family, husband, daughter 20, her fiance 22, and y...
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Hmmm sounds like the fam is in a bit of denial? I think as women, we naturally take control in the home and family tend to get complacent and lack the vision of what exactly we do to keep the house running and functioning with ease the way it appears to for them.
They are in for a bit of a shock and I found as I had two teenage children and no hubby, so they had to step up and they did of course with direction but to me...I was always the strong one, it didnt mean that I wasn't because I was too sick to cook and clean. it meant I was honest and real, and at last I valued myself to say NO, Im dealing with enough and I was very ill through chemo. So I now only measure my worth for myself, there's no negotiating, unfortunately family and friends dont really understand the depth of what you go through...partly denial, and partly they just want you to be through it and back to normal...all of it unrealistic. So I say call a family meeting, in fact take them to your Oncology visit and let them EXPLAIN it to them!
My children came to a few infusions I had, it was eye opening but gave them more of an understanding of how serious it was and what I was going through and why I felt so ill.
Sometimes we just have to let go and be true to us above everything and everyone. :)
xx M
They are in for a bit of a shock and I found as I had two teenage children and no hubby, so they had to step up and they did of course with direction but to me...I was always the strong one, it didnt mean that I wasn't because I was too sick to cook and clean. it meant I was honest and real, and at last I valued myself to say NO, Im dealing with enough and I was very ill through chemo. So I now only measure my worth for myself, there's no negotiating, unfortunately family and friends dont really understand the depth of what you go through...partly denial, and partly they just want you to be through it and back to normal...all of it unrealistic. So I say call a family meeting, in fact take them to your Oncology visit and let them EXPLAIN it to them!
My children came to a few infusions I had, it was eye opening but gave them more of an understanding of how serious it was and what I was going through and why I felt so ill.
Sometimes we just have to let go and be true to us above everything and everyone. :)
xx M