Husband and chores
so here I sit after having my two ops (first lumpectomy and five nodes) then (all nodes as cancer spread) my chemo starts Tuesday and I have told the family, husband, daughter 20, her fiance 22, and y...
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Hey Kym,
It's interesting who steps up to the plate when the chips are down isn't it? We have four girls still living at home ranging between 18 and 21 at the time.
They were all great after the surgery, However, with chemo, the AC knocked me round a bit but not as bad as it does with some people so I was doing a lot of my regular things (old habits die hard huh?) .
Chemo is one of those things that you just can't tell how it's going to go until you start. The day of chemo I couldn't do anything, day 2 and 3 I had a big burst of energy from all the steroids they give you. Day 4 and 5 pretty average then I was good till the next one. The fourth round floored me for about 8 days.
With the Paclitaxel I had minimal problems so every body kind of forgot what was going on, things slipped back to the usual routine and I guess I let it. My aim was to try and keep things as normal as possible. It was what I needed to do to get through. Everyone has their own way I guess. Nobody in my household is used to seeing me doing nothing. So the look on their faces when I took a Netflix, wine and Tim Tam afternoon! Priceless.
Did you take hubby to the chemo education appointment? Maybe go through some of the possible side effects with him. If he sees them written in front of him he might get the point.
I found a gentle reminder every so often, like "You do realize I am being poisoned so if you have to eat toast one night too bad, drive the 3kms to maccas!" Stunned silence.
"Hey Mum, what's for dinner?" "I didn't feel like going to the shops today so it's whatever you can find" silence again.
If you need to go to bed and rest, just do it. The world won't stop and when there's nothing in the fridge they'll just have to work it out.
Just makes you realize how much you really do for everybody without them even thinking about it.
All the best lovely.
xoxoxo
It's interesting who steps up to the plate when the chips are down isn't it? We have four girls still living at home ranging between 18 and 21 at the time.
They were all great after the surgery, However, with chemo, the AC knocked me round a bit but not as bad as it does with some people so I was doing a lot of my regular things (old habits die hard huh?) .
Chemo is one of those things that you just can't tell how it's going to go until you start. The day of chemo I couldn't do anything, day 2 and 3 I had a big burst of energy from all the steroids they give you. Day 4 and 5 pretty average then I was good till the next one. The fourth round floored me for about 8 days.
With the Paclitaxel I had minimal problems so every body kind of forgot what was going on, things slipped back to the usual routine and I guess I let it. My aim was to try and keep things as normal as possible. It was what I needed to do to get through. Everyone has their own way I guess. Nobody in my household is used to seeing me doing nothing. So the look on their faces when I took a Netflix, wine and Tim Tam afternoon! Priceless.
Did you take hubby to the chemo education appointment? Maybe go through some of the possible side effects with him. If he sees them written in front of him he might get the point.
I found a gentle reminder every so often, like "You do realize I am being poisoned so if you have to eat toast one night too bad, drive the 3kms to maccas!" Stunned silence.
"Hey Mum, what's for dinner?" "I didn't feel like going to the shops today so it's whatever you can find" silence again.
If you need to go to bed and rest, just do it. The world won't stop and when there's nothing in the fridge they'll just have to work it out.
Just makes you realize how much you really do for everybody without them even thinking about it.
All the best lovely.
xoxoxo