Hi Susan
I had taxotere which was horrible, but not as terrible as I thought. My first chemo was the worst but every single symptom I had was addressed promptly and subsequent sessions were much, much better. There were alot of drugs involved to combat the chemo drugs and you feel like you're on a roundabout but I knew it was what I needed to do to get through it. I asked alot of questions about the drugs and also why I couldn't have others like the pain killers etc and once it was explained to me I found that I calmed down. I too suffered headaches and joint aches but nothing was permanent and a 4 hourly regime of Panadol works extremely well, as it turned out!
Take all the advice you can - you will still be able to filter out the good from the not so good and do what you need to do to get through it. All the very best to you - I know you've probably heard it before but try to go with the flow for now - it'll make the process alot less stressful. Believe me, I wish I had from the start!! :)