Hi Merryl,
I have been through the reconstruction route for both side - a mastectomy side and a silicon for ex-breast-feed healthy breast. My husband and I are very happy with the result. The ex-breast-feed looks and feels real. The mastectomy side was very hard at first, and it has soften over time. It has been 5 months now since my Latissimus Dorsi.
My path was tissue expander at masterctomy surgery, expand over time before Radiation, Latissimus & basic silicon implants to match.
My personal advise is that if you have any concern or anxiety relating to reconstruction surgery / paths, it is probably important for you to discuss this with your plastic surgeon face to face. (bring your hubby, as you probably only catch half the conversation - when you are there!!) He / she will work with you or provide you information regarding all the Q & A. It is important for you to have a Trust and Caring relation with your plastic surgeon - as there are a lot of aftercare involve and you need to be comfortable.
other bcna resource ...
http://www.bcna.org.au/new-diagnosis/treatment/breast-reconstruction
Are you doing this via public or private? have you finish all your BC treatment?
Happy to answer for personal question via email.
chrs,
amy