Hi ladies, I get my results from surgery on Thursday in the morning thankfully as I don't think I could wait until the afternoon I'd go crazy I'm really worried that I might have to have chemotherapy as the surgeon did mention chemotherapy as a depending on the results outcome I'm scared mostly for my daughter as she'll see too much and I'm scared to. I know I have to do what the doctor says but that doesn't make it any easier to come to terms with as I'm the one going through this mostly not the people who say you'll be okay. I just need some words of encouragement I feel alone and I'm scared. big cyber hugs Anita

Hi Anita it is a really scary time for you. Sometimes the unknown is the worst, I'm not saying chemo is easy because it isn't. I had chemo last year and it was tough but I'm still here 12 months on. I look back now and don't know how I coped but you just do it, one day at a time. Chemo is different for everyone, if you do need it take notes and ask lots of questions, no question is dumb. Take care you will get there, one step at a time, sending you positive vibesxx

Hi Rowdy, I guess It's just the fear of the unknown but I suppose we just have to face our fears I have faith in my surgeon and I trust him he's been my surgeon since 2009 and has done numerous procedures on me, my husband and I also have a friendship there with him and were glad he could do the procedure as we were told by the GP that he doesn't do breast surgery but we found out on our own that he did luckily so it turned out well for us, It's the unknown and what my daughter will see that scares me but she goes back to school soon so hopefully she'll be shielded from most of it but she knows somethings happening she's too smart for her own good but I have great support at her school they are going to watch her for me and give her extra love as they say, my friends at the school will watch her too so I'm lucky there, as you say one step at a time It's the waiting that's driving me crazy. Keep on smiling Anita.

Hi Anita You are not alone. You have all the ladies on this network who are here to support you, give you encouragement and advice and cyber hugs. You are in a good place as you seem to have a supportive husband and you obviously know your surgeon. Trust him and the others in your medical team. Don't waste valuable minutes worrying at this stage as what is there is there and you just have to listen about the results when they are presented and then make the decisions re your treatment. You are the one in charge - it is your body and your life so ask ask ask - all the questions you want as that is what the medicos are there for. Stay in touch, vent when you need and we are here for you. Hugs Summer :-)

Hi Anita, I can understand your fears. I had a lumpectomy in Oct 2013 and was told I would have radiation. No chemo was mentioned so I assumed there wouldn't be any, also because there was no cancer detected in the lymph nodes and the surgeon got clear margins. The medical team decided that because of my terrible family history that it would be a good idea to 'mop up' anyway. I shouldn't have assumed, I realise that now. I was devastated and inconsolable at first. Then I realised they are the experts and I had to do everything possible to give me the best chance of getting through and come out the other end with no regrets. Chemo wasn't easy for me, lots of speedbumps along the way, but I made it. Looking back, I'm not sure how I made it but I did. I took things one day at a time and eventually it was over. Try not to worry too much before you get your results, if you need it, it's best you have it. In regards to your daughter, it might me difficult to explain why the medicine can make you ill but children understand a lot of things better than we know. Best wishes with whatever treatment you have and don't forget there is a lot support on here for you with whatever questions you have, big cyber hugs to you, Hazel xx

Hi Summer, Thank you that's great advice, I have a fantastic Breast Nurse and she has been very supportive and helpful and If I need to talk to her I can call her she's going to call me Thursday afternoon about my results if she can't make it to my doctors appt at 9.20 so either way I'll talk to her Thursday. I know I'm not alone but sometimes it feels that way and I just want to scream at someone and cry histerically but I just can't seem to do that as I tend to bottle things up which isn't good for me, stressing myself out about it doesn't help either I just need to focus on the here and now not the this could happen and read what's on the internet I'll drive myself nuts. Lots of Cyber Hugs Anita.

Get my post surgery results on Thursday and I'm worried

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Arleene
Member
11 years ago
Hi Rowdy,

I guess It's just the fear of the unknown but I suppose we just have to face our fears I have faith in my surgeon and I trust him he's been my surgeon since 2009 and has done numerous procedures on me, my husband and I also have a friendship there with him and were glad he could do the procedure as we were told by the GP that he doesn't do breast surgery but we found out on our own that he did luckily so it turned out well for us, It's the unknown and what my daughter will see that scares me but she goes back to school soon so hopefully she'll be shielded from most of it but she knows somethings happening she's too smart for her own good but I have great support at her school they are going to watch her for me and give her extra love as they say, my friends at the school will watch her too so I'm lucky there, as you say one step at a time It's the waiting that's driving me crazy.

Keep on smiling

Anita.
rowdy
Member
11 years ago
Hi Anita it is a really scary time for you. Sometimes the unknown is the worst, I'm not saying chemo is easy because it isn't. I had chemo last year and it was tough but I'm still here 12 months on. I look back now and don't know how I coped but you just do it, one day at a time. Chemo is different for everyone, if you do need it take notes and ask lots of questions, no question is dumb. Take care you will get there, one step at a time, sending you positive vibesxx

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