I got pretty much the same response from the males in my family too. i think they were trying to be supportive. I don't want to let cancer rob me of my life but also of the life I want to live and things won't be the same if I have the surgeries and then there is a whole new set of potential health problem having your ovaries removed. Until I found out I had BC i had hardly been sick a day in my life so I guess I find it so hard to handle and being the control freak I am I feel like I have lost control of ME.
I hope you are feeling better after finishing radiation. I finished just before christmas and was still a little sort and sorry over new year but once the burn starts to heal it heals very quickly and you will feel so so much better.
take care
Cheryl