Michelle don't dwell on what if's, i have a strong family history but for now have chosen not to be tested , i feel there is no rush and my emotional state of mind needs to be stronger. you have plenty of time your beautiful girl is only 1 so enjoy being her beautiful mum and dont worry , only 5% to 10% of breast cancers are genetic and even if you did have the gene it doesn't mean she will get it.
you have been through so much of late give yourself time to heal and to live,
this dosen't all have to done today. if you choose to still do it, what ever the out come you are not to blame i dont blame my mother or grandmother. it's just what was.
goodluck what ever you do.