Hi Michelle
I haven't had the testing so I'm sorry I can't help you there. We may go down that track as my Mum as had BC but that is the only relative so not strong apparently.
I worry about my daughters - they are 6 and 9 getting this too now. I discussed this with my Drs and they put it in perspective for me that if they are at greater risk by the time it is a concern for them - i.e. more than 10 years - we will be much further progressed in treatment options than we are now. Just think of the changes in the past 5 years and how survival rates have improved. It will be even better in the future - they may even be able to prevent it. We have to think with hope for our daughters and have faith in the wonderful work of the medical professionals and researchers trying to rid us of this disease.
Mel has given some great information about the process - it sounds like it is very supportive and that you get good counselling - I hope that you get this too.
I'm sorry you've had so many hassles with your surgery and now this worry too. take care - and sending you lots of positive thoughts.
Amanda x