Hi @Gizmo,
Confusing yes. I had family history but great grandmother and a couple of her sisters, so way back. No other cancer anywhere. According to what I was told at the time a very high percentage of people diagnosed with BC have no family history at all and only a small percentage with the inherited gene that actually get BC.
I had the lumpectomy and auxillary clearance as I originally found it in the lymph nodes.
I opted out of the gene test as I really didn't want to spend my life knowing I had inherited a dodgy gene and always panicking about it for myself and feeling guilty that I may have passed it on to my two daughters. I didn't want them to spend there lives just waiting for it to show up.
Everyone is different so if that's how you feel, then that's how you feel. Whichever way is best for you is the right thing.
There appears to be no rhyme or reason for what triggers it that they know of yet and all you can do is the best you can to prevent it recurring as guided by your team.
Take it easy.
xoxoxo
