Well I married a man 5 years OLDER than me so his hair is thinning,his beard grey and his face has wrinkles- BUT he is still slim,has minor ailments, eats what he wants(so annoying) and is quite fit(fitter than me).If he was to attract any ladies then sooner or later his grumpy disposition(a recent thing) would probably be revealed.We've been married for 35 years and love each other to bits.We have 2 grown up girls(1 is married) and are quite happy with each others company MOST of the time- I go to my hobbyroom when he's grumpy ha ha. Mich,it sounds like you had a difficult past and ofcourse,still having health problems.It takes it's toll. I looked in the mirror the other night and just shook my head in disbelief at how my body now looks- missing boob,flabby everything,bags under my eyes- you get the drift.But my husband doesn't see it and still loves me.I'm sure your husband is the same -anyway,you're cute,what's not to like!! And if we could lose a few kilos between us,we'll look hot!! Makeup will fix the rest. love n hugs,Tonya xx