It's hard when everyone expects you to just bounce right back and be who you were BEFORE. But you aren't. You can't help how they are reacting, there's nothing you can do to change that. The hard part is not letting it affect your recovery.
Breathe, be calm, focus on what YOU need and want. Sounds like your partner and your daughter are on the right track so you have a great support team there. And this forum is AWESOME. I love being here with people who totally get where I am and what I'm feeling without question, without explanation.
The rest will work itself out. When people don't understand just explain if you can, and if they still can't, then let it be. It doesn't matter. You moving forward is what matters. This is the time in your life to be selfish.
Loads of good luck for your reconstruction.
magicmum