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Al
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14 years ago

Feeling a bit low!

Hi all,

Just finished my 3rd taxol/herceptin on Friday and so far so good with physical side effects but I'm finding that I becoming more irritable and less tolerant of the little things. Husband thinks that because I'm coping very well with this regime that I'm almost back to normal and he doesn't need to help around the house as much. So who ends up doing most of it again? Therefore running myself down. I found this yesterday after running around on Saturday. I was very tired but things still needed to be done. A little whinge!!! Men! A whole new different breed. Don't get me wrong he has been very supportive but sometimes not what I need. I have to continually tell him what I want him to do which can be very draining. He seems to have no initiative at times.  I'm seeing my councellor today so hopefully she can give me some strategies and also be just an ear! Maybe I'm just irritable because of the fatigue? This is a whole new different tiredness and I suppose I just have to be able to recognise the signs.

Knowing that I still have 9 more weeks of chemo to go then 9 more months of herceptin plus 7 weeks radiotherapy to come is also playing on my mind. I'm just impatient! I want an end to it now! Also not knowing if the treatment has worked which I know is a very common reaction to any treatement regime. I asked my oncologist about follow up appointments. He was very good and said that basically I will see the surgeon again once chemo has finished then I will be seeing him every 3 weeks before the herceptin and also to arrange Tamoxifen.

Well I hope everyone is as well as can be expected and that you are travelling your own journeys as best you can.

Thinking of you all often,

Take care.

Love Alison xxx

3 Replies

  • Ann-Marie_AK's avatar
    Ann-Marie_AK
    Member
    14 years ago
    I am glad to hear that your session with the counsellor helped. I went through some very uncharacteristic mood swings during my treatment. I was so tired and really wanted things done without having to give a full blown explanation first. Very frustrating! Be careful not to overdo things. Some days when I felt good I tended to do too much and then found I was exhausted for the next 2 days. Take care Ann-Marie x
  • TonyaM's avatar
    TonyaM
    Member
    14 years ago

    Here's the thing with men-if you are standing upright and breathing then they think you are ok- stay in bed or horizontal on the couch! Give him a list of the things you need doing for the day-men are better with a list.It takes many years for the initiative thing to kick in.I think chemo and bc makes us abit emotional and more irritable.I know I was.But I couldn't have got through it all without my husband's love and support.You have a long slog ahead of you so no wonder you are feeling impatient and worried.Will be good for you to see a councellor -we need all the support we can get.

                                       Tonya xx

  • Susan_Schuback's avatar
    Susan_Schuback
    Member
    14 years ago

    Hi Ali,

    I hope you are recovering well from your last chemo!  I am slowly recovering since finishing mine but it is a slow process and I only had the 4 sessions!

    Anyway you take care of your self,

    Brightest Blessings,  Susan xxx