Experiencing grief and loss
After attending the 2nd National Young women with Breast Cancer Conference last weekend...it was a real eye opener as to how all these feelings of loss, angry, feeling down, anxious are quite normal....
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Yes...I totally agree! I have had friends tell me that they are disappointed in me for saying I felt down or upset...It's like telling someone who has lost a loved one "don't worry! just be positive and it'll be fine" Positivity helps but it doesn't fix everything! Sometimes you need to grieve....
Sometimes I feel like it is some kind of failure if I don't have my happy positive face on all the time! The councelling I have been receiving through the Cancer Council has been really helpful! I can whinge to them all I like and they don't mind at all :O) They also told me about a book called "the happiness trap" which has been really helpful in understanding that feeling a bit down or anxious is totally normal and it is literally impossible to stay positive all the time....the journey is just that (it's not a holiday to Fiji people, bad stuff...lots of bad stuff happens to us along the way!),... with highs and lows and I think we come out the other side more grateful, compassionate and understanding people ....