Expanders, Chemo and being scared

Hi, I haven't had a reconstruction yet after my left mastectomy, (want to get my weight down first to best BMI, and get over my chemo/targetted treatment first). But a couple of friends who have told me a couple of things that you may find helpful. One said that the mastectomy did not really hurt much at all, but the expanders felt like a bad headache on your chest. The other said she found it helpful to think of the pain of the reconstruction process as "good pain" that was just part of the process she had chosen to undergo to to rebuild a sexy body, and that changed how she felt about the discomfort and pain.