Hi Lyn,
What a bugger that is! To be so far down the path of reconstruction, and back to square one is very sad. Having been down that path myself, I know that all you really want is to have the process finished so you can get on with your life. I had a major bleed 3 weeks out of surgery, which required a trip to theatre and the removal, wash out and replacement of the expander. I remember being terrified that they wouldn't be able to get the expander back in, or it would cause issues down the track. I was lucky, and it healed well, and caused no long term problems. I wish you well, and hope you can recover quickly from the infection, and will have success next time. Love Chris xx