Discrimination for or against??

Hi Pennyy,

Such an interesting topic.  I was so pleased at the start that i didn't look like I had cancer and could get on with things without people knowing.  When I finally had chemo the end of 2010 into 2011 I felt so intimidated.  I felt nervous, felt like everyone could see, even though I changed my wigs accordingly, like starting off short and then gradually getting longer.

Now I have started going without the wigs as it is too hot and my hair isn't too bad a length.  But the other day I went into a supermarket I don't normally go to and another customer took one look at me and threw herself back against the shelves and stayed there until I had walked by with a look of like terror on her face.  I just got my stuff and got out of there.

I don't want the sympathy from people, I just want to be treated normally.  I hate the thought of extra attention.  The only attention I would like is from my brother and sisters.  Since I was diagnosed they have had little or no contact with me.  When I make the attempt to contact them they are always too busy and can't spend the time on the phone as they are all a distance away from me.  I just wanted them to be there to support my children more than anything as I do have advanced cancer, but they won't even be there for them.  That hurts alot.  But I have decided that hard as it may be I don't have the time to make sure they feel okay with my condition.  My time is devoted to my husband and my three daughters and making some good memories.  Most of our friends don't come around anymore and we don't get invited to BBQ's or anything so I do feel disappointed in peoples reactions.

Sorry for going on but it is something that really gets on my nerves.

But when it all comes down to it, I have experienced different reactions from people, but even when I had chemo the reactions weren't as friendly as I thought they would be.

Thanks and all the best with your treatments.

Take care.

Tracey