Hi Samantha,
So sorry to hear about your diagnosis. As you can tell - there's lots of ladies in similar psotiions on this website. I was diagnosed in May this year, TNBC, grade 3 with lymph node involvement. I've had a lumpectomy and aux clearance (only 1 of 14 nodes involved). And am now doing chemo. 4 ccyles of AC (every fortnight so AC Dose Dense), followed by 12 cycles of Paclitaxel (interspersed with 4 lots of carboplatiunum every 3 weeks). The oncologist in Perth wanted to hit me hard as well - I'm 37 - and so she's taking an aggressive approach. I guess that is good in terms of life to come! I've had my second AC cycle and haven't enjoyed it. But its not as bad in some ways as I feared. Its hard, but you can get through it.
Good luck with your decisions. I don't think i was really given a choice - I was recommended that this would be the best course of action to keep me cancer free. But its good you get to have a bit of a decision.
Good luck with everything,
Le.