Decided not having chemo

Hi  there @Kagisha ...your  body, your life, your choice. I  do  wonder, however about  your statement above that your  impression is that all sorts of women, with all sorts of different breast cancer are all getting the same regime of chemo and that that didn't make sense to you. I'm not an oncologist, but  my understanding is  that, bottom line, all breast cancers originate in the breasts and are normal cells which have  for some or other reason not copied themselves correctly and so have become abnormal, and that then having done this, grow abnormally and spread to other  parts of the body. These facts are common to all forms of bc, so at the root of it all, although there are many forms there are also many commonalities too. Paracetemol is taken for pain...all sorts of pain with different  causes. You don't have  one commonly used pain pill for headache, one for  toothache, one  for a sprained wrist, one for this and one for  that. The root symptom for these ailments  is  pain, and for most, paracetemol would help ease that pain. I  belong to a group where there was a member who was horrified at the idea  of chemo..it didn't make  sense to her that she was being advised to take a treatment which would affect her  immune system,  when she had personally  done her research (read that as I googled it), and was of the opinion that her immune system needed to be strong and that her own body would deal with any stray cells which had escaped surgery by itself   if  it was  strong and healthy. She was not going to join the group of bald headed women  shuffling in and out of her oncologist's rooms thank you..she was (metaphorically speaking) going to eat kale and hop on  the treadmill.  She now has stage 4 and is terrified for her life. I  am not saying that if you follow your chosen path, that you are  putting your  life at risk, because there are no guarantees in this shitfest, but for me the question I asked myself  was this. If I  refused, and things subsequently went pear shaped, would I have regrets? Would I say to myself that perhaps I  would not then be  in the position  that I would be in with mets? Would I be proud of the fact that cancer be buggered, I still had my hair?  Or would I be beating myself up with  the knowledge that there were no two bites of the apple here...if  things go badly, you can't push the rewind button  and make different choices before it is too late. If  you are happy with your decision, fine, I just sincerely hope that you are just as happy  with the outcome.