Hi Hbizza,
I was diagnosed with high grade DCIS on the 28.05.13 and had a mastectomy on the 12.06.13 after being told that it was the only option. I struggled with the thoughts of why I had to have such a radical procedure. I searched and asked so many questions but I felt as if I had already had the boarding pass for the surgery train and with lack of information I went along for the trip. It is still to be decided whether or not I caught it early enough...what was only pre-cancer is now slightly invasive with HER2+ with no lymph node involvement. So now there is more decisions to be made in regards to treat with chemo and Herceptin or not. Again there does not seem to be a lot of accessible information for treatment of a 40 y.o.
I understand fully about being an intruder, because even now I am not sure how to classify myself. The scars will heal, I only slightly regret not getting reconstruction but in the short time frame I could only deal with one issue at time.
My children are older, but they are still not able to comprehend everything...but lots of cuddles help.
Hopefully your results will be fine...the only thing I that I can offer is to find a good specialist that will listen to all your questions and hopefully they can shed some more appropriate answers than late night goggling.
Not sure if any of this helps any..