day 1

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For me it is not really day one it has been three weeks since the core biopsy on the right breast, but it is day one because it will be the hardest yet,&nbsp; The pain i will feel when i inform my two children 7 and 5 that mummy is sick will be the worst "emotionally". hopefully I am under estimating their strength and understanding of the situation, but there is a long way to go, I have infiltrating ductal cancer about 1 cm and today opted for a full mastectomy just to save the extra worry and hopefully get a nice new breast eventually, I would give my arms my legs anything for my kids so whats a breast?? Hopefully in the next couple of weeks this horrible germ will be gone, and i can start the drugs etc to get back to normal asap!!!!!!
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roby · Answer

Hello

Not sure how old your children are but I found with my teenagers that it was best to keep them informed of everything that was happening and support them to keep on with their normal activities. In saying that telling them was one of the hardest things that we have hade to do as parents.

Not sure if this will help.

Robyn

jodi1980 · Answer

Thanks My kids are 7 and&nbsp; 5 so they will find it hard to understand but we will keep things as normal as possible cheers xx
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adean · Answer

No matter what age never easy my girls are older 23 and 18 but took it hard its the most gut renching thing Ive ever done NOW WE ARE ON THE FIGHTING leg they are better You know little children are more resilient than we give them credit arent they You will find the right time and the right things to say I mean you are a MUM and that says it all. Have a look on the bcna shop site it has a lovely book written by a 6 year old called my mum has cancer, maybe worth looking at&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; love&nbsp; adean

tania67 · Answer

Hi Jodie
I am a single mum of a 4 year old daughter. I found not lying to her but not giving her too much info has worked well for her. I keep her informed at every level. Go and read my blogs, maybe it will help. Most of all, I approach every step with a positive attitude with her. My tears I hide from her. Although there have been a few times where I cant hide them and I dont think that is a bad thing either.
Good luck darlin. Its a hard part to go through. Like you said, our kids are our life. I thank god for her every day. She is what has made this bearable.
Tania xx

tania67 · Answer

Hi Jodie
I am a single mum of a 4 year old daughter. I found not lying to her but not giving her too much info has worked well for her. I keep her informed at every level. Go and read my blogs, maybe it will help. Most of all, I approach every step with a positive attitude with her. My tears I hide from her. Although there have been a few times where I cant hide them and I dont think that is a bad thing either.
Good luck darlin. Its a hard part to go through. Like you said, our kids are our life. I thank god for her every day. She is what has made this bearable.
Tania xx

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