Thanks again to everyone who's taken the time to respond to me. It means a lot at the moment. I'm not worried about making it through this as I've got great examples right in front of me (my mum has had two bouts of breast cancer 16 years apart and is still going strong) but neither she or my sister needed chemo and it's all the day to day stuff that I'm unsure of and nothing beats advice from people who been there. I will be taking note of all your great advice especially about the dental hygiene as I'm a bit prone to mouth ulcers anyway. One other question: has anyone used cold caps? They've popped up in my research in the last couple of days so I'm curious about their effectiveness and how people have found them?