Hi
For a lot of people the c word (chemo) is as scary if not scarier than the other c word (cancer). The side effects of chemo can be bad, there's no denying. But not always that bad. You won't know how you travel in chemo until you start. Unfortunately other people's experience may not be much of a guide. The important thing to remember is that many of us have gone through months of chemo, we are still here and many of us are cancer free. You are right to think of all the options available to you but please do consider the advice of your medical team, who want to give you the best options for recovery. I started chemo at 67, over 4 years ago, one lymph node was HER2 positive so treatment was managed as HER2 positive although the tumour was negative. 6 months chemo, 12 months herceptin and 5 years Femara (hormonal therapy). One year to go and I am done. I am working, living a normal life, travelling (off to Spain next month) and that's why I did it all. So I could still have a life. Yes, I have a few side effects. No, they don't stop much. Not every one has ideal results, and some people have very difficult long term problems. But I keep the possible alternatives in mind! Keep asking questions as that's the best way to feel confident about your decisions. Best wishes.