Changes

Hi Peta,

this is what I like to refer to as my bulls&$t meter and my levels are at an all time low. I finished treatment 9 months ago and I just have no tolerance for other people's crap. I either walk away or I say something to put things back into some sort of perspective. I remember saying to my husband "but I'm a good girl. I don't drink or smoke etc. how come I have cancer?" His reply was this. "It's a disease. It doesn't discriminate. Why else would babies get it." I think that is so true. Yes there are things we can do to lower the risk but the fact is I have met people who exercise and eat right and do everything "right" and they have still ended up with cancer. I think the chemicals and toxins in our environment play a part, I think the foods we eat, play a part, I think the stress of our lives plays a part and yes, good old luck plays a part. You do look at your life once you've been through something like this and you can't help but to be changed by it. You can't change others but you can change the way you react. Tell them things could always be worse. Interrupt them and say let's talk about something not so negative or change the conversation. But some people aren't happy unless they are miserable and I have chosen to limit my contact with these types of people. Live your life they way you want and what makes you happy. Don't let others bring you down and if that means you walk away, then so be it. Life is too damn short to be miserable.  Talk to the people who you still want in your life but let them know that you aren't interested in the negativity and the why mes. They can either come with you for the ride of their lives or stay miserable on their own. Hang in there Peta. And don't be afraid to let others know if they are wallowing in self pity. If it's something they have always done it is a hard habit to break. Karen xox