Ah Lee, what a "mess". Big virtual hug to you!
I, too, am now planning a bilateral mastectomy after having had a lumpectomy last December. Although mine is because new information about my past medical history made everyone realise that I am actually at higher risk of more cancer than usual, I feel like I got on the wrong treatment "train" originally because my breast surgeon did the same as yours. I went into my first ever appt with her last December saying that I wanted a bilateral and she talked me out of it because I am "young" etc.
Should have stuck with my first decision...
Jenn
Jenn