body pain after chemo
hi everyone, haven't been on for awhile, life has been so busy juggling appointments, working, looking after house and family and had another operation in August to take more margin out. Just started ...
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Vinn,
Ive had Breast Cancer twice in 4yrs, Im now 9 months from Chemo this diagnosis. I wanted to acknowledge you, how you feel and what you are saying. I can totally relate, I also had very little support both times and am a single parent of 2 beautiful teenage kids lol. I work with Autistic children also which is highly demanding, but am only doing 3 days a week even now. Through Chemo I honestly felt like I was in the depths of hell, there were some very dark times. Once recovering, everyone assumes you are back to normal and quickly and don't GET IT!!! It is completely frustrating and no amount of explaining helps so I dont bother anymore. I learnt a massive lesson through it all, I put me first, above work and above everyone. I used to break my back running the home, being the only parent. Whilst through chemo last year I also had one in VCE, she was diagnosed with depression the year before so it was such a hard year, but we both did it! I have NO idea how the hell we got through...but I do know this. Its not about anyone else, I too had people say I must do treatment whatever that entails for my kids and everyone else. I say this to you, as this is what I said in fury at them...If I cannot do this for me, I cannot do it for anyone else. Me first above everyone else and that is NOT selfish! You are a human being in your own right, besides being a Mum, a wife, a sister, whatever that is. You are YOU!!! Nobody can tell you what decisions to make and how you should handle this entire nightmare. This is YOUR journey, and we all handle things very differently. We go through every emotion possible and its cruel, absolutely. It has nothing to do with being positive by the way...it only matters you as an individual that you honor YOU and handle it all the way YOU choose to.
So Im sending you the biggest cuddle to say I GET IT!!
Melinda xoxoxo
Ive had Breast Cancer twice in 4yrs, Im now 9 months from Chemo this diagnosis. I wanted to acknowledge you, how you feel and what you are saying. I can totally relate, I also had very little support both times and am a single parent of 2 beautiful teenage kids lol. I work with Autistic children also which is highly demanding, but am only doing 3 days a week even now. Through Chemo I honestly felt like I was in the depths of hell, there were some very dark times. Once recovering, everyone assumes you are back to normal and quickly and don't GET IT!!! It is completely frustrating and no amount of explaining helps so I dont bother anymore. I learnt a massive lesson through it all, I put me first, above work and above everyone. I used to break my back running the home, being the only parent. Whilst through chemo last year I also had one in VCE, she was diagnosed with depression the year before so it was such a hard year, but we both did it! I have NO idea how the hell we got through...but I do know this. Its not about anyone else, I too had people say I must do treatment whatever that entails for my kids and everyone else. I say this to you, as this is what I said in fury at them...If I cannot do this for me, I cannot do it for anyone else. Me first above everyone else and that is NOT selfish! You are a human being in your own right, besides being a Mum, a wife, a sister, whatever that is. You are YOU!!! Nobody can tell you what decisions to make and how you should handle this entire nightmare. This is YOUR journey, and we all handle things very differently. We go through every emotion possible and its cruel, absolutely. It has nothing to do with being positive by the way...it only matters you as an individual that you honor YOU and handle it all the way YOU choose to.
So Im sending you the biggest cuddle to say I GET IT!!
Melinda xoxoxo