Ditto to what all the lovely ladies above me have said.However,I probably wouldn't have coffee with that "friend"for quite awhile! Pity parties are fine-wallow in it and cry it all out,you'll feel better for it.But if it happens every day then you need to talk to a professional.I had bc in 2003 and then again(same breast)in 2010 and I am fine now.I just expect to live a long life and only really get anxious around checkup time.I just accept it and celebrate afterwards if everything is ok.I meditate and also go to art therapy which all helps. Sending hugs,Tonya xx