Bilateral tram flap

Hi Louise thanks for your reply.i am going to Westmead too under Dr Lam.i live in Coffs Harbour so it is going to be difficult as our kids are still in school. I have family in Sydney but my parents are in their late seventies so my eldest son who is 17 is going to stay in Sydney with my parents while I am in hospital and spend his days with me to give me a hand. My hubby and the other two boys will travel down the day before the op and stay for a few days after before heading back and will return to pick me up when I can leave Sydney. Dr Lam has said he wants me to stay in Sydney for at least 2 weeks so we can keep an eye on the flap. Dr Lam receptionist said there is a pre admission clinic a couple of days before surgery so I will come down on my own for that. Your worries are exactly the same as mine developing pneumonia and the flap failing so I guess I will be as anxious about that as you were. As to my cancer I am 4 years post diagnosis I had stage 2 invasive lobular cancer with 1 node positive out of 18. and had a mastectomy chemo and radiation . I made the decision to have the reconstruction along with an elective mastectomy on the left because I couldn't keep dealing with the anxiety every time my mammogram was due or I had a pain or felt something odd in my breast. I still get emotional at different times but not as bad as when I was back in the time you are going through now. Louise it does get better but this diagnosis can't help but define you for a while you know I even have days now where I don't even think of breast cancer ! Lol seriously it will get better you have taken on this huge operation whilst still having treatment! I take my hat of too you I don't know that I would have found the same strength. I'd be more worried if you weren't emotional . Take care of you I'll definitely let you know how the op goes and may even need to bend your war again before hand if you don't mind. Also if you have anything you want to ask me or talk to me about I am more than happy to do so x