Bad Day

Hi hopeful,

 I was a hopeful sort of person before BC, but I found it VERY hard to deal with the diagnosis and so many things to deal with. It all adds up.

I think I went through a loss/ grief reaction. I knew I was SCARED. I knew when I was FEARFUL.

I knew when I was SAD, ANGRY and BARGAINED with " up there. "

 The hardest to deal with was DENIAL of some outcomes of  the journey.

Finally I am at a place of ACCEPTANCE of the changes and adaptions I had to make.  HOPE  returned.

 It took TIME  to work through this. Taking life day by day helped, plus other " lessons. "  I have made new friends, I reconnected with old friends. I feel I grew up emotionally.

 If you are having a rough time of it, please talk to someone. Perhaps try and explain it in words, or write it down. Perhaps think about how you feel on a scale of one to 10.

One being you are coping well; 10 being not coping, or visa versa.

Then you can admit that the journey you are on is BIG.

 Please reach out if you need to. Do you have a breast care nurse, friend or family person you can turn to at this time?

Maybe talking to a professional a couple of times might help also. I think it is best to deal with it early, rather than later.

There is no SHAME in asking for help. The journey is a physical and an emotional one. You may already have a lot of stress in your life before the BC journey began. I wish you all the best,

 sincerely, Kathy.

Hi hopeful,

 I was a hopeful sort of person before BC, but I found it VERY hard to deal with the diagnosis and so many things to deal with. It all adds up.

I think I went through a loss/ grief reaction. I knew I was SCARED. I knew when I was FEARFUL.

I knew when I was SAD, ANGRY and BARGAINED with " up there. "

 The hardest to deal with was DENIAL of some outcomes of  the journey.

Finally I am at a place of ACCEPTANCE of the changes and adaptions I had to make.  HOPE  returned.

 It took TIME  to work through this. Taking life day by day helped, plus other " lessons. "  I have made new friends, I reconnected with old friends. I feel I grew up emotionally.

 If you are having a rough time of it, please talk to someone. Perhaps try and explain it in words, or write it down. Perhaps think about how you feel on a scale of one to 10.

One being you are coping well; 10 being not coping, or visa versa.

Then you can admit that the journey you are on is BIG.

 Please reach out if you need to. Do you have a breast care nurse, friend or family person you can turn to at this time?

Maybe talking to a professional a couple of times might help also. I think it is best to deal with it early, rather than later.

There is no SHAME in asking for help. The journey is a physical and an emotional one. You may already have a lot of stress in your life before the BC journey began. I wish you all the best,

 sincerely, Kathy.

Thanks Kathy.

Stay positive....I know its hard sometimes but it really does help!  But saying that,  there's nothing wrong with having a good cry every now and then - it can make you feel a lot better.

Louise