Advice needed

Hey MBKYou have made a very good start in helping your MIL by joining this network.  There is so many women out there that are willing to offer you their advice and support. You and your husband also need support through your MIL journey.I agree with what Anna says above and for Anna it is all very fresh so her advice is invaluable. You MIL sounds like a very stubborn, independent women.  She also sounds like a very private women and is obviously dealing with her diagnosis of BC (for the second time) the best way she knows how.  We are all an individual and deal with these things in our own way I guess.  You have to respect her wishes as much as you can.I was quite alone throughout my whole journey a lot of the time.  I found the first week after chemo the hardest each time and then towards the end it accumulated and I struggled even more but I did like to try and keep as much independence as I could.Some suggestions:- taking her to and from her chemo treatment and then radiation should she need it.  She will get more and more tired as she goes through her treatment and will need to rest regularly probably.- someone to cook her some hearty meals that she can have in the freezer and heat up when she feels like them or you can just drop them around if you have cooked and have extra for her.- someone (not necessarily you or hubby) to help with cleaning areas of the house that she would like cleaned.  Cancer Council may be able to help with that, they can occasionally help financially sometimes if needed.  They have their help line which is available for your MIL or yourselves to call 24/7.  I think it is 131120.  As hard as it might be for us to understand sometimes people prefer to talk to a stranger than be a burden on their loved ones.  Just give the number to your MIL and then she can call them if need be.  I found them very helpful on a number of different levels.  Just like I found BCNA invaluable through my journey.- the breast nurse at your mums hospital can often be a good source of information for both yourselves and/or your MIL so it might be worth contacting them.- have you ordered the "MY Journey Kit" from this website for your MIL.  Plus there are other resources/literature she may like to read.- there is a post on here that is "what has helped you through your journey" which many people have found very helpful as it relates to even the smallest of things your MIL may need throughout her journey.Please come back here and chat whenever you need to or if we can help.Wishing you and your hubby patience, understanding, love, support and wishing your MIL a smooth and peaceful road through her journey.Lots of love, Mich xoxo