Advice needed

Hi,

As a single person going through breast cancer treatment, maybe there are some comments that I could offer that might help. On the assumption that your mother in law will be going through chemotherapy, I would offer the following to her.  As the recipient, it is useful to get these as specifc offers eg. 'can I drive you to treatment on Thursday', rather than 'what can I do to help'.

My suggestions of a practical nature are: 

1. A call every morning to see how she is going.  A Smartphone is very useful, then you can text, and not both have to be available at the same time.

2. A cleaner.  I am on a three week chemotherapy cycle and my cleaner comes two weeks out of three, not in the week when I have the very low white blood cell count.  

3. An offer to drive her to her treatments and bring her home; and an offer to stay during the treatment.

4. It helps to tell the neighbours, even if she doesn't know them well. My neighbour puts out my bins each week, which is a great help.

5. An offer to do shopping each day / couple of days.   Call through or text through the list and deliver the items to her home.

6. An offer of a pre-cooked dinner delivered to her home on the frst five days after the chemotherapy treatment.

7. An offer to pick up library books. 

8. An offer to do washing.

9. An ofer to stay the night in the first few days after treatment.

Her needs are likely to change throguh this time. She may start (I did) thinking I could do more than I could actually achieve.

She could get lonely.  Does she have a computer at home to link up to support sites etc ?

I hope this is helpful.  Anna