Hi Trace, unfortunately or fortunately I'm good at being strong. My mother was bi polar and diagnosed when I was 9 years old. I nursed my dad when he had lung cancer and eventually died in 2000. I also organised and arranged for his breast cancer surgery in Sydney when I was working as a nurse there in 1993. My sister Christine raised the rest of us and she was only 16 when mum went into psych care inially. One of my brothers was 14 and my youngest sister was 6 then. She would get up at 4am do washing on the cooper stove and peg out, make lunch for us kids for school and my 2 brothers and dad who worked on the farm, plus smoko. Make beds, sweep out and do some prep for dinner then go to work at the bank 2 blocks away. Come home and get washing in, iron and cook dinner . She bought my first bra ( I had nothing to put in it ) but I wanted one! Took me to the snow, stayed in a hotel and generally loved me. She is my favourite sister. I just deal with what I'm given , I may rant and cry but nothing will change the outcome but I feel better afterwards. I've been told I'm stoic but I'm just practical . She calls me her Rottweiler , as I field all her communication and tell people to leave her alone until she's ready to contact them. Thanks for letting me rant, much appreciated . Beppie xx