I am a reborn Christian and have a relationship with God. I practiced 'religion' for many years before realising that God does not want us to be religious but rather He wants us to have a relationship with him.
This world is full of sin, and through sin, death, illness, war etc came into the world. God does not "give' his strongest the heavier crosses to bear because no loving Fater 'gives' his children pain. We suffer in the world as a result of sin. We can however have relationship with a loving father who sustains us in the midst of adversity. Death is the most natural thing on earth and part of the life cycle no matter how it happens, accidents, sickness, old age....all the same thing. I think once we make peace wih that and realise death is not 'given' we can be at peace. No one is stepping off this earth allive ever.
I love God, He has sustained me in the worst times and he will do so untill the day I die, he will be there to love me unconditionally. Yes he has the power to do miracles but we can't mannipulate God to do miracles, if he does, it will be for a bigger plan. If he doesn't it is still for a bigger plan. I have had many people say to me that they have learned so much through my cancer journey and they grew so much spiritually because of the way I handled everything. Which left me to think God used my illness and sickness to touch others, and if that is the case, it was worth it. God reaches people through adversity not just through miracles.
I hope my brabbling makes sense and I speak only of my own experience with God and what I feel He has done for me through my life. We will always have good and bad times. God has never promised no pain or no sickness or no war, but he has promised to hold us and be near us and lift us up if we lean on Him during those times. As for scripture classes or learning about the meaning of life, I can highly reccomend the new testament of the Holy Bible. God would love to meet you there! No one can explain the 'meaning' of life and suffering better than God himself.
Blessings and hugs
Rene
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