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missbuttkickcan
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11 years ago

" I have breast cancer..."

.... The 4 words i didnt ever think i would hear my 54 year old mother say to her 22 year old daughter. It was these words that made me feel like my whole world stopped right that second.  My mum is best friend i know that sounds lame but at the end of the day she really is, we work together i see her everyday and she still manages to be my best friend ! But today at work was the toughtest day ive had yet, she sent me a text asking me to come outside i knew immedaitly something is not right! i got outside and she looked at and said " i have breast cancer" it was this excat moment this monring that i felt like everything i knew, my whole world just sropped and came craashing around my feet. it was the immediate why and when and how and what nows that came to mind, but i was speechless i couldnt say anything i just startd to cry and she said " why cant i just get the flu?" we gave each other a big hug and she said right you need to get your accounts in before i close off january. so off we went and all day ive cried on and off. At this point i wish i knew a little more to know how worried i should be but i coudlnt get any words out. i called my husband to have a cry and he told me not to worry just yet and to wait till we hear more, i know he meant well.. but that is never going to happen. let me say that just in the 5 and a half hours i have known ( i know it sounds cliche) but i have looked at everything different everyone comes into the office whinging that they are tired and arent happy blah blah blah and i keep thinking it could be worse.. you could have breast cancer. Im preparing my self for the tough journey this will be, everytime i relax, i think about my mum and the unknowen future its a horrible feeling but i guess this is life i guess i will use this blog to write my feelings and thoughts and mums progress. and so this journey begins..... xxx
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  • Chris's avatar
    Chris
    Member
    11 years ago
    I am sorry to hear about your mum as well. I was 52 when diagnosed, and telling my 4 adult children was really hard, but their support for me was fantastic. I am now 4 years post diagnosis, and I am doing really well. I have had a double mastectomy, chemo and reconstruction, and everything is now good. I am on an oral medication daily for another 7 years as my cancer was hormone receptive, but it doesn't cause me any grief. Be there for your mum and help out where possible. As soon as you have more information it will become easier to process. If possible go with your mum to all her appointments, as it is really hard to remember everything when faced with a Cancer diagnosis. Either my husband or daughter came with me to every appointment and it really helped. Sometimes there were questions they would think of that wouldn't even occur to me because I was in this awful cancer bubble. Good luck with everything with your mum. Maybe she will join this site for support as well. I have found it to be of great help to me over the years. Love Chris xx
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    missbuttkickcan
    Member
    11 years ago
    Hello robyn. Thank you so much for your beautiful comment. Lovely to see someone so positive. Most certainly keep in touch x
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    Robyn_W
    Member
    11 years ago
    Welcome to the online network.This place is THE best place for you and your mum to get support and advice over the coming months.I was diagnosed 16 months ago,and I have had a mastectomy and chemo.I am absolutely fine now,and in fact I feel better than I ever have.I was 59 when I was diagnosed.I was scared witless in those early days,but as time went on,and I talked to people on here,and began to realise that for most ladies,BC is not a death sentence anymore,I started to realised that I was going to be OK.I have a gorgeous 24 year old daughter,who has been by my side for the whole experience.Your Mum needs you now,just to be there.Try to think of this as a bump in the road.The beginning is the hardest by far,because you have a thousand unanswered questions.Be guided by the doctors for the treatment side of things,and then come on this blog for all the other questions that you will have,and for support in general.So please try not to worry TOO much:) Please feel free to read my blog posts of you like.Stay in touch,and believe me,things will start to settle down soon.Cheers xoxRobyn
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    missbuttkickcan
    Member
    11 years ago

    thank you for your lovely message. venting is something i feel i will be doing a lot 

     

    x

     

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    rowdy
    Member
    11 years ago

    Hi it will be a long road ahead and your mum will need your support. I know when I told my daughter ( who is my best friend) the look in her eyes of shock.

    As a mum you always think it is going to be you supporting your children through the bad things in life, but it dosen't always work out that way.

    My daughter was there for me sometimes when I least expected and when I knew she couldn't do anything but give me a hug and comfort me.

    She came with me to the look good feel good day and she was amazing

    Good luck there is lots of support here even if you just need to vent.

     

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    rowdy
    Member
    11 years ago

    Hi it will be a long road ahead and your mum will need your support. I know when I told my daughter ( who is my best friend) the look in her eyes of shock.

    As a mum you always think it is going to be you supporting your children through the bad things in life, but it dosen't always work out that way.

    My daughter was there for me sometimes when I least expected and when I knew she couldn't do anything but give me a hug and comfort me.

    She came with me to the look good feel good day and she was amazing

    Good luck there is lots of support here even if you just need to vent.